What do you believe?
Are you prepared to stand up and be counted. To take a firm stand for what you believe?
If you are willing to stand up for what you believe and are prepared to speak out: and you can join the ranks of many women and men who have suffered through various kinds of abuse through media and physical, mental, sexual, financial and other forms of abuse that are not being mentioned.
So many people that I meet, from all walks of life, have suffered through one or another type of abuse! Surely in this day and age you would think we would have leant from the past mistakes?
Apparently NOT!
So, sadly, many people continue to struggle through various types of abuse everyday. Some even pay for it with their lives. There are some who think that, if they have a load of money, can get away with anything! My friend is facing a lawsuit with a bloke who has been scamming and sexually harrassing loads of people. Tragic! Watch out to those who make fun of strong women, they may get more than they bargained for!
So, my friends, stay strong and be of good courage. There is a lot going in the world, and there are voices that are being lifted up, to speak out to bring about change!
stay tuned and watch this space!
Monday, 29 October 2018
Thursday, 25 October 2018
MOMENTUM! IT JUST KEEPS BUILDING!
WELL, THE DAYS OF OUR LIVES has nothing on the events occurring in our local community!!
not only have I broken my arm, but my friend has broken her tooth. Most expensive injury to date, as, one trip to the dentist and 500 pounds later she is fixed. Then her friend broke her toe, our neighbour had chest pains and had to be rushed to hospital! It all happens around here!
Nevertheless have had a great session with my coach and continue to learn from webinars all the time. It has and is being an incredible journey of learning, putting into practice, trying out new
software, and seeing how to make it all come together. Not quite there yet, but definitely on the road as I am building social awareness slowly. It is amazing how I am managing to type with only one hand, but am also able to draw, and take part in a Pictionary game, using my left hand. So pressing right along, hindrances not withstanding, so much more to implement and take action to put into place!
This is all part of the healing journey at the same time! Discovering who I am, being free to be me! Learning to grow and change is all part of this incredible journey. where will it lead to next?
I am trusting God to lead me and increase my creative capacity, so that I can continue to learn and develop tools to teach others to begin their own healing journeys!
It is being challenging as I am broadcasting live on Facebook, but the feedback has been most rewarding, as so many people have been encouraged by what I have been sharing. It means that there is still not enough being talked about, when confronting any form of abuse. It still needs to be brought out into the open and declared that these types of behaviour are NOT acceptable!
We need to stand together and increase awareness in our community so that there is greater freedom for all!
Have a fantastic day, don't forget to encourage those around you. God bless, keep smiling!
not only have I broken my arm, but my friend has broken her tooth. Most expensive injury to date, as, one trip to the dentist and 500 pounds later she is fixed. Then her friend broke her toe, our neighbour had chest pains and had to be rushed to hospital! It all happens around here!
Nevertheless have had a great session with my coach and continue to learn from webinars all the time. It has and is being an incredible journey of learning, putting into practice, trying out new
software, and seeing how to make it all come together. Not quite there yet, but definitely on the road as I am building social awareness slowly. It is amazing how I am managing to type with only one hand, but am also able to draw, and take part in a Pictionary game, using my left hand. So pressing right along, hindrances not withstanding, so much more to implement and take action to put into place!
This is all part of the healing journey at the same time! Discovering who I am, being free to be me! Learning to grow and change is all part of this incredible journey. where will it lead to next?
I am trusting God to lead me and increase my creative capacity, so that I can continue to learn and develop tools to teach others to begin their own healing journeys!
It is being challenging as I am broadcasting live on Facebook, but the feedback has been most rewarding, as so many people have been encouraged by what I have been sharing. It means that there is still not enough being talked about, when confronting any form of abuse. It still needs to be brought out into the open and declared that these types of behaviour are NOT acceptable!
We need to stand together and increase awareness in our community so that there is greater freedom for all!
Have a fantastic day, don't forget to encourage those around you. God bless, keep smiling!
Wednesday, 24 October 2018
Tuesday, 23 October 2018
PRESSING ON DESPITE BROKEN ARM!
How often do we just simply undo a bottle of milk? We need two hands for a lot of things we do. Then when one becomes temporarily out of action, we realise how much we appreciate having two limbs! We take things for granted!
What of those who have had to go through life without?
They are generally well adapted and push on regardless! My hat off to them!
Now facing six weeks being only one handed, I am developing new skills! My typing is improving, but still struggling with the tooth brush!
I am continuing to explore and research ways of presenting teaching and encouragement for those struggling with relationship issues! There is so much good advice and so much to learn as well! Healing takes time, and effort. You must want to change and be willing to take the necessary action, as only YOU can bring about change in yourself. I tell you what though, it is exciting embarking on the change journey, as the more you press on the greater the freedom, and experience of liberty you feel! It is amazing to look back and see how far I have come, and am excited to continue to press on and see where this journey will take me!
So for all of you out there that are facing challenges in your life, my message to you today is :
NEVER GIVE UP! There is HOPE! So keep on keeping on, for you never know how far reaching your journey will be!
Every cloud has a silver lining, even breaking my arm has the advantage of slowing me down, giving me time to focus more on study, and not being so distracted by other activity options that so readily present themselves! Trust me, this s a good thing. I am surprised at how much bruising there is, which is still coming apparent post fall. Therefore I am being forced to rest and not do so much physical work, but can still operate a keyboard!
Today is a day of rethinking, looking at the next few weeks and seeing what I can do whilst temporarily hindered from travelling about so much!
Thankful ad grateful for love and support from family and friends!
Have a great day!
What of those who have had to go through life without?
They are generally well adapted and push on regardless! My hat off to them!
Now facing six weeks being only one handed, I am developing new skills! My typing is improving, but still struggling with the tooth brush!
I am continuing to explore and research ways of presenting teaching and encouragement for those struggling with relationship issues! There is so much good advice and so much to learn as well! Healing takes time, and effort. You must want to change and be willing to take the necessary action, as only YOU can bring about change in yourself. I tell you what though, it is exciting embarking on the change journey, as the more you press on the greater the freedom, and experience of liberty you feel! It is amazing to look back and see how far I have come, and am excited to continue to press on and see where this journey will take me!
So for all of you out there that are facing challenges in your life, my message to you today is :
NEVER GIVE UP! There is HOPE! So keep on keeping on, for you never know how far reaching your journey will be!
Every cloud has a silver lining, even breaking my arm has the advantage of slowing me down, giving me time to focus more on study, and not being so distracted by other activity options that so readily present themselves! Trust me, this s a good thing. I am surprised at how much bruising there is, which is still coming apparent post fall. Therefore I am being forced to rest and not do so much physical work, but can still operate a keyboard!
Today is a day of rethinking, looking at the next few weeks and seeing what I can do whilst temporarily hindered from travelling about so much!
Thankful ad grateful for love and support from family and friends!
Have a great day!
Saturday, 20 October 2018
Friday, 19 October 2018
Thursday, 18 October 2018
UNDERVALUED - UPGRADE YOURSELF TO BECOME HUGELY VALUED!
SO MANY PEOPLE ARE SQUASHED THROUGH LIFE EXPERIENCES..
Circumstances may have pushed you into feeling worthless, and undervalued.
For those who have been in abusive relationships, these feelings may be your norm. Yet, deep down in your inner most being, you know that you have so much to give, and that you are worth more than what you are currently experiencing!
I know what it is like to be yelled at, to not be appreciated, to being overlooked and ignored, as though I didn't exist. I know these feelings first hand, as I lived within a toxic environment for years. It takes time to come out of this experience, and to learn to live again with the knowledge that that is NOT how life has to be. You are exceptional, and you do have HUGE VALUE and WORTH, you just haven't fully appreciated it yet.
Time is a great healer they say: and it is true! It takes time to change your thinking from one of being undervalued, to realising that you do not have to live under that cloud any more, you can come out into the sunshine and realise that you can change, that you are not that person you once were, but that you are now becoming the person that you want to be. You can be free to laugh, to share your opinion, and to be heard! Yes, you have a voice, and you can express your thoughts and feelings and others will listen! It is so important to realise that you can speak out, and to know deep in your inner most being: you are appreciated for who you are!
Healing comes slowly, a little bit at a time. It is progressive, and ongoing! This healing journey is amazing, like watching a flower bloom! You can now speak out with your eyes shining, your face radiant with the passion coming up from within , as you share your heart openly and enthusiastically knowing that you are being heard! It is liberating to be free from the cloud of oppression and negativity that you were living under before! Now you can be the real you! The joy of LIFE is yours to fully experience and explore!
No matter the type of cloud you once lived under, be it oppression, addiction, toxic environment, abuse, once you leave the old environment, it is important to put it behind you. Do not look back, but move forward. Remember only that what once was, is now no longer. Obviously memories are there, but they can now fade into the distance as you build new memories and new pathways to journey along! You are now a builder of new hopes and dreams that do not incorporate the past, but look to the new horizons, as new vistas unfold before you! You are stronger for your experiences but you are also an explorer of this new journey, the new opportunities that present are being revealed as you forge the new pathways ahead. New mountains to climb! Keep going! Don't give up!
Have a great day!
Circumstances may have pushed you into feeling worthless, and undervalued.
For those who have been in abusive relationships, these feelings may be your norm. Yet, deep down in your inner most being, you know that you have so much to give, and that you are worth more than what you are currently experiencing!
I know what it is like to be yelled at, to not be appreciated, to being overlooked and ignored, as though I didn't exist. I know these feelings first hand, as I lived within a toxic environment for years. It takes time to come out of this experience, and to learn to live again with the knowledge that that is NOT how life has to be. You are exceptional, and you do have HUGE VALUE and WORTH, you just haven't fully appreciated it yet.
Time is a great healer they say: and it is true! It takes time to change your thinking from one of being undervalued, to realising that you do not have to live under that cloud any more, you can come out into the sunshine and realise that you can change, that you are not that person you once were, but that you are now becoming the person that you want to be. You can be free to laugh, to share your opinion, and to be heard! Yes, you have a voice, and you can express your thoughts and feelings and others will listen! It is so important to realise that you can speak out, and to know deep in your inner most being: you are appreciated for who you are!
Healing comes slowly, a little bit at a time. It is progressive, and ongoing! This healing journey is amazing, like watching a flower bloom! You can now speak out with your eyes shining, your face radiant with the passion coming up from within , as you share your heart openly and enthusiastically knowing that you are being heard! It is liberating to be free from the cloud of oppression and negativity that you were living under before! Now you can be the real you! The joy of LIFE is yours to fully experience and explore!
No matter the type of cloud you once lived under, be it oppression, addiction, toxic environment, abuse, once you leave the old environment, it is important to put it behind you. Do not look back, but move forward. Remember only that what once was, is now no longer. Obviously memories are there, but they can now fade into the distance as you build new memories and new pathways to journey along! You are now a builder of new hopes and dreams that do not incorporate the past, but look to the new horizons, as new vistas unfold before you! You are stronger for your experiences but you are also an explorer of this new journey, the new opportunities that present are being revealed as you forge the new pathways ahead. New mountains to climb! Keep going! Don't give up!
Have a great day!
Wednesday, 17 October 2018
LIGHT BULB MOMENTS
Have you ever had that flash of inspiration? A sudden light bulb moment, when you have a brain storm and see things with a whole new perspective?
Ah ha moments when the light goes on, and you suddenly "get it" after struggling with some issue or another!
Well, when you are on the learning curve and are struggling to understand how to get from A to B, flashes of inspiration are very much needed! But you can't just make them happen! Learning how to progress through the healing journey is, in its self, a struggle. But then also to find that not only are you on the road to healing and becoming a new you, but you are seeing the world around you through new eyes... because you yourself are changing!
There comes a time when the shifts start to happen, and you see that what you first thought of, is not how it is now! Life will never be the same, as your goal posts have changed! Dreams you once had have been torn up and shredded, and now it is time to build and dream again, but with new understanding! It is time to take a fresh look and see that there are new horizons to aspire to! Hope still stands, but it is a renewed HOPE that shows you that there is a future. It will not be what you had dreamt about all those years ago, but now you are seeing with a new understanding. Comprehension floods your soul, as you understand the pain and sorrow of the past few months/years.
Now the vision is clearing, and the colours seem brighter. The pains of yesterday have no place in the now, which means that you can face tomorrow with a bolder and more courageous attitude. Then you realise that this is all possible, because you have gone through the "dark night of the soul" and have come through to the other side, and you can leave the burdens of yesterday behind.
Now you can stand tall, with your shoulders thrown back, and you can breathe deeper and more confidently, as you take in this moment. You have the confidence to stand firm, to appreciate this IS the moment, when you realise that you can do it. Your inner man has become stronger, and more assured. Your mindset is renewed, as you now perceive that you not only have the ability, but you can do the job well! Power surges through your veins. You can shake off the lethargy, the negativity, the nagging doubts and the lies that you have been feeding yourself, or have heard others say. NO these are not true, you know you don't have to listen to them anymore, as you pick up your sword and shield, and brace yourself for the next step forward.
Taking the stance of assurance, and confidence, you are able to step forward and be the overcomer that you are. You know you have the support and back up from the King of Kings! You are loved and appreciated and can move on into this new chapter of Life. All that has gone before has prepared you to be the person you have now become! The School of Life has helped you to graduate to this point, and now the real learning is beginning!
You realise that your mistakes from your past are the stepping stones to your future!
You square your shoulders and lift your head high, you are a seasoned warrior in the battle of LIFE!
Ah ha moments when the light goes on, and you suddenly "get it" after struggling with some issue or another!
Well, when you are on the learning curve and are struggling to understand how to get from A to B, flashes of inspiration are very much needed! But you can't just make them happen! Learning how to progress through the healing journey is, in its self, a struggle. But then also to find that not only are you on the road to healing and becoming a new you, but you are seeing the world around you through new eyes... because you yourself are changing!
There comes a time when the shifts start to happen, and you see that what you first thought of, is not how it is now! Life will never be the same, as your goal posts have changed! Dreams you once had have been torn up and shredded, and now it is time to build and dream again, but with new understanding! It is time to take a fresh look and see that there are new horizons to aspire to! Hope still stands, but it is a renewed HOPE that shows you that there is a future. It will not be what you had dreamt about all those years ago, but now you are seeing with a new understanding. Comprehension floods your soul, as you understand the pain and sorrow of the past few months/years.
Now the vision is clearing, and the colours seem brighter. The pains of yesterday have no place in the now, which means that you can face tomorrow with a bolder and more courageous attitude. Then you realise that this is all possible, because you have gone through the "dark night of the soul" and have come through to the other side, and you can leave the burdens of yesterday behind.
Now you can stand tall, with your shoulders thrown back, and you can breathe deeper and more confidently, as you take in this moment. You have the confidence to stand firm, to appreciate this IS the moment, when you realise that you can do it. Your inner man has become stronger, and more assured. Your mindset is renewed, as you now perceive that you not only have the ability, but you can do the job well! Power surges through your veins. You can shake off the lethargy, the negativity, the nagging doubts and the lies that you have been feeding yourself, or have heard others say. NO these are not true, you know you don't have to listen to them anymore, as you pick up your sword and shield, and brace yourself for the next step forward.
Taking the stance of assurance, and confidence, you are able to step forward and be the overcomer that you are. You know you have the support and back up from the King of Kings! You are loved and appreciated and can move on into this new chapter of Life. All that has gone before has prepared you to be the person you have now become! The School of Life has helped you to graduate to this point, and now the real learning is beginning!
You realise that your mistakes from your past are the stepping stones to your future!
You square your shoulders and lift your head high, you are a seasoned warrior in the battle of LIFE!
Tuesday, 16 October 2018
Monday, 15 October 2018
BE INSPIRED TODAY!
Personal Growth takes time, especially if you have experienced difficulties and traumas in your life. Sometimes the struggle to overcome seems overwhelming, but as you persevere in your personal walk, you begin to see evidence of your personal transformation and others will see the changes in you and stand in awe of you, as you demonstrate the power you have from within!
Yesterday at Toastmasters we watched one lady delivering her 6th speech. It was fantastic to witness her personal transformation, which she clearly outlined throughout her speech. Her journey had taken her from being so shy and timid, following years of oppression and abuse, to the current point where she is not only able to talk about her experience, but she is able to deliver her speech with confidence, an air of authority and a clear demonstration of personal development. She is letting her inner light shine through, displaying her inner radiance. She is now able to be more confident at work, and able to deliver work commands with a greater air of authority and assurance. She is stepping out and accepting her self worth with serenity and a deepening sense of personal accomplishment.
We all can learn by example and can take strides along our own journeys, learning to lift our heads high as we see the inner man being healed and acknowledged in a positive and encouraging way.
We all need affirmation. Toastmasters delivers a way of being encouraged and through evaluation: discovering our weaknesses and being able to iron out the creases and become stronger as we press onwards!
These attributes of support and encouragement need to be carried over in to every walk of life. Too many work places have succumbed to a few who make it a real chore to work at. If we all walked in the way of encouragement and endorsing positive behaviours, our work places and our lives would be enriched very powerfully. The world would be a better place for it!
Personally it is so encouraging to see people blossoming into who they are becoming. One child I was counselling at the centre where I worked, was having lots of issues at home. I asked her to create an "Affirmation Collage" which she did, and then I asked her to talk me through all her pictures, and why she had included them. One of her pictures was of a flowering cherry tree. I asked her why she had included this, and her reply was: "Because I am blossoming!" I was thrilled, as this was gold! She knew that she was changing and growing out of her personal issues, and becoming a stronger person because of them!
We can all grow and change, so be encouraged, today, as you step further along your own journey of life be blessed and uplifted. Never give up!
Yesterday at Toastmasters we watched one lady delivering her 6th speech. It was fantastic to witness her personal transformation, which she clearly outlined throughout her speech. Her journey had taken her from being so shy and timid, following years of oppression and abuse, to the current point where she is not only able to talk about her experience, but she is able to deliver her speech with confidence, an air of authority and a clear demonstration of personal development. She is letting her inner light shine through, displaying her inner radiance. She is now able to be more confident at work, and able to deliver work commands with a greater air of authority and assurance. She is stepping out and accepting her self worth with serenity and a deepening sense of personal accomplishment.
We all can learn by example and can take strides along our own journeys, learning to lift our heads high as we see the inner man being healed and acknowledged in a positive and encouraging way.
We all need affirmation. Toastmasters delivers a way of being encouraged and through evaluation: discovering our weaknesses and being able to iron out the creases and become stronger as we press onwards!
These attributes of support and encouragement need to be carried over in to every walk of life. Too many work places have succumbed to a few who make it a real chore to work at. If we all walked in the way of encouragement and endorsing positive behaviours, our work places and our lives would be enriched very powerfully. The world would be a better place for it!
Personally it is so encouraging to see people blossoming into who they are becoming. One child I was counselling at the centre where I worked, was having lots of issues at home. I asked her to create an "Affirmation Collage" which she did, and then I asked her to talk me through all her pictures, and why she had included them. One of her pictures was of a flowering cherry tree. I asked her why she had included this, and her reply was: "Because I am blossoming!" I was thrilled, as this was gold! She knew that she was changing and growing out of her personal issues, and becoming a stronger person because of them!
We can all grow and change, so be encouraged, today, as you step further along your own journey of life be blessed and uplifted. Never give up!
YOU CAN MAKE A DIFFERENCE!
Who you are does matter! You can make a difference, which might really change someone's world!
Today I am blogging about the 3rd key in my Matters of Life:
Be yourself, you are unique!
Every one has a message to share and it may have the power to transform someones world! Be a positive influence, and share the love. Encourage one another, give a hug where you can. We all need to be loved and appreciated. I believe you can never encourage someone too much!
Love the story of Les Brown and his enthusiasm to make his dream a reality. He did not take "NO" for an answer, but stayed doggedly determined, and stuck to his dream and his goal. He became that DJ he so badly wanted. SO if you have a dream and badly want it, start applying your self TODAY!
Get ready, and grab any opportunity that may come your way, you never know where it will lead, and you never know how many lives you will impact. Share your hopes and dreams and be transformed into the person you dream of becoming. With God anything is possible!! See what Les Brown has done with his life, he not only got the dream house for his mum, but he has positively influenced and encouraged thousands to live the life of their dreams!
I dream of having more than enough, so that I will have more than enough to give away and encourage others. IT does not have to be monetary things, it can be your time, your love, your food. Invite someone in to share a meal. Be hospitable, you may yet entertain angels unawares! Be a blessing! Your love and acceptance of someone may give them the boost to start out on the next phase of their lives! Look around you, who can you bless today?
I have had the privilege of sharing my resources with others and it is soooo good to see them have a life of purpose and meaning. Now they too are passing on the encouragement and helping others to transform their lives! Its a knock on effect, so get knocking on the doors of those around you, and watch miracles take place! It is humbling to see the power of love!
The greatest of these is AGAPE LOVE!
Today I am blogging about the 3rd key in my Matters of Life:
Be yourself, you are unique!
Every one has a message to share and it may have the power to transform someones world! Be a positive influence, and share the love. Encourage one another, give a hug where you can. We all need to be loved and appreciated. I believe you can never encourage someone too much!
Love the story of Les Brown and his enthusiasm to make his dream a reality. He did not take "NO" for an answer, but stayed doggedly determined, and stuck to his dream and his goal. He became that DJ he so badly wanted. SO if you have a dream and badly want it, start applying your self TODAY!
Get ready, and grab any opportunity that may come your way, you never know where it will lead, and you never know how many lives you will impact. Share your hopes and dreams and be transformed into the person you dream of becoming. With God anything is possible!! See what Les Brown has done with his life, he not only got the dream house for his mum, but he has positively influenced and encouraged thousands to live the life of their dreams!
I dream of having more than enough, so that I will have more than enough to give away and encourage others. IT does not have to be monetary things, it can be your time, your love, your food. Invite someone in to share a meal. Be hospitable, you may yet entertain angels unawares! Be a blessing! Your love and acceptance of someone may give them the boost to start out on the next phase of their lives! Look around you, who can you bless today?
I have had the privilege of sharing my resources with others and it is soooo good to see them have a life of purpose and meaning. Now they too are passing on the encouragement and helping others to transform their lives! Its a knock on effect, so get knocking on the doors of those around you, and watch miracles take place! It is humbling to see the power of love!
The greatest of these is AGAPE LOVE!
Sunday, 14 October 2018
Saturday, 13 October 2018
CHALLENGES!
Just recently I have been challenged to step out of my comfort zone and to connect more!
So I was challenged to air live on Facebook for 30 days! I have aired 10 times in the last 10 days! It has / is being an amazing experience, as it is amazing how far reaching the posts go, the responses I am getting from people nearby and from the other side of the world have been so encouraging!
It is all part of the healing journey. All the activities that I undertake are all contributing to the ongoing journey, which is being quite remarkable! My friends say I am changing back to the more positive and confident person I once was! I have and am continuing to be stretched, and at the same time I am discovering a new liberty and freedom that I have not had for many years!
I have done things on social media that I had never done before! Like blogging, tweeting, making a webinar, learning how to create optin pages, use new social media tools that I had never heard of! It is all such a big learning curve, which at times, I must be frank with you, has been somewhat overwhelming, as I am really not techno savvy! Yet, I am learning. Nothing is too difficult if you put your mind to it! It is a matter of application, perseverance and determination!
I am getting there, albeit slowly!
Another challenge has been joining Toastmasters and standing in front of an audience and speaking out about my experience, and then learning to create a humorous speech, and then presenting it! I never thought I was funny, but my son said I was... that's because I am his funny mummy! Nevertheless, I have now spoken out at an area meeting.. so step by step I am making a difference to myself. Which in turn, will have the knock on effect of impacting those around me with the positivity that is transforming my world!
I returned to the UK to look after my elderly dad, after being away from the UK for 30 years! That in itself, has been a challenge! New location, new people to meet, and new concepts to get my head around!
The learning/growing journey continues! There is still a long way to go yet, but the getting there is encouraging and sometimes fun! Other times stretching me to the limits of my past experiences and then beyond to new horizons! There is no limit to learning, once you set out on the journey!
keep on keeping on! Never Give Up!!!
So I was challenged to air live on Facebook for 30 days! I have aired 10 times in the last 10 days! It has / is being an amazing experience, as it is amazing how far reaching the posts go, the responses I am getting from people nearby and from the other side of the world have been so encouraging!
It is all part of the healing journey. All the activities that I undertake are all contributing to the ongoing journey, which is being quite remarkable! My friends say I am changing back to the more positive and confident person I once was! I have and am continuing to be stretched, and at the same time I am discovering a new liberty and freedom that I have not had for many years!
I have done things on social media that I had never done before! Like blogging, tweeting, making a webinar, learning how to create optin pages, use new social media tools that I had never heard of! It is all such a big learning curve, which at times, I must be frank with you, has been somewhat overwhelming, as I am really not techno savvy! Yet, I am learning. Nothing is too difficult if you put your mind to it! It is a matter of application, perseverance and determination!
I am getting there, albeit slowly!
Another challenge has been joining Toastmasters and standing in front of an audience and speaking out about my experience, and then learning to create a humorous speech, and then presenting it! I never thought I was funny, but my son said I was... that's because I am his funny mummy! Nevertheless, I have now spoken out at an area meeting.. so step by step I am making a difference to myself. Which in turn, will have the knock on effect of impacting those around me with the positivity that is transforming my world!
I returned to the UK to look after my elderly dad, after being away from the UK for 30 years! That in itself, has been a challenge! New location, new people to meet, and new concepts to get my head around!
The learning/growing journey continues! There is still a long way to go yet, but the getting there is encouraging and sometimes fun! Other times stretching me to the limits of my past experiences and then beyond to new horizons! There is no limit to learning, once you set out on the journey!
keep on keeping on! Never Give Up!!!
Thursday, 11 October 2018
DECISIONS TO MAKE AN IMPACT
Are you happy with your life right now?
If the answer is NO then it is up to you to make a decision to do something different!
Les Brown says that many people resist change!
If you do nothing, nothing will happen!
So if you need to get up and do something, decide that today is the day to do something about it!
I made the decision to follow Jesus as a young child. It does not mean that life has always been perfect, but it does mean that I have done things that have made a difference to myself, and to others!
I stepped out and went to work in the refugee camps in Hong Kong. From there I set up, with a lot of support from others, a detox house for some of those who were willing to make a difference to their lives. We saw many lives impacted and many made the decision to have a different life to the one they had been living!
Moving on, I flew to Australia and continued to pursue what I felt God was leading me to do. I met and married a wonderful Vietnamese guy and we have three fabulous children. Sadly we are not together anymore as PTSD brought about complications that made it not doable any more.
Now, moving on, I have not wallowed in self pity, but have moved on and continue to serve Him where ever He takes me! Life continues to be an adventure, there are so many opportunities to reach out and bring about change to oneself and to others!
Step out and make a difference to yourself, as well as to others around us. I have written a book called "Matters of Life, 10 Keys to Make Your Life Matter."
Use your life to bless others!
Don't waste your life, it is a gift to you, be thankful for it!
When things go wrong, don't go with them!
Life happens! Make the most of it!
With God ALL things are possible!
If the answer is NO then it is up to you to make a decision to do something different!
Les Brown says that many people resist change!
If you do nothing, nothing will happen!
So if you need to get up and do something, decide that today is the day to do something about it!
I made the decision to follow Jesus as a young child. It does not mean that life has always been perfect, but it does mean that I have done things that have made a difference to myself, and to others!
I stepped out and went to work in the refugee camps in Hong Kong. From there I set up, with a lot of support from others, a detox house for some of those who were willing to make a difference to their lives. We saw many lives impacted and many made the decision to have a different life to the one they had been living!
Moving on, I flew to Australia and continued to pursue what I felt God was leading me to do. I met and married a wonderful Vietnamese guy and we have three fabulous children. Sadly we are not together anymore as PTSD brought about complications that made it not doable any more.
Now, moving on, I have not wallowed in self pity, but have moved on and continue to serve Him where ever He takes me! Life continues to be an adventure, there are so many opportunities to reach out and bring about change to oneself and to others!
Step out and make a difference to yourself, as well as to others around us. I have written a book called "Matters of Life, 10 Keys to Make Your Life Matter."
Use your life to bless others!
Don't waste your life, it is a gift to you, be thankful for it!
When things go wrong, don't go with them!
Life happens! Make the most of it!
With God ALL things are possible!
FORGIVENESS
The last couple of days have been full and so varied!
Yesterday was a glorious day and was on a trip with friends to Knole House in Sevenoaks! What a beautiful place, with so much to see and learn! We had two lectures on how the archaeologists have been working over the last few years, as well as finding out and discovering new artefacts bringing to light some of the newer history of the place, we learnt of some of the older history and a bit more about some of the less famous people who had resided in the magnificent house.
It was a perfect day to go around and see all the rooms, and the items on display, but too much to take in as there is really so much you want to look at and see the incredible things around. Plus see the gorgeous parkland with all the deer!
Today has been a very different day, cloudy and not so pleasant outside, so have helped dad to sort out some of his stuff. That actually used up a lot of time! It is amazing how much stuff one can accumulate over the years! But I did manage to persuade him to let me take 3 black bags to the recycling depot! So now the place feels cleaner and lighter!
Talking on Facebook I have reiterated the importance of Forgiveness. When beginning on your own healing journey, it is absolutely essential that you are able to forgive those who have caused you pain and grief, and in addition you must also be able to forgive yourself. Do not blame yourself, and do not hold anger or bitterness in your heart. They will make you sick, and you will still be, therefore, be under their influence. Let go, move on! Then you too will feel cleaner and lighter!
I have just been to a wonderful woman's meeting, where we were all able to talk about skin care, and also internal care. It is fine to make your face look good, but you will only truly glow when you have a deep inner beauty. Walk in light and freedom, and make a difference to yourself, and to those around you.
Bless you, have a great day.
Yesterday was a glorious day and was on a trip with friends to Knole House in Sevenoaks! What a beautiful place, with so much to see and learn! We had two lectures on how the archaeologists have been working over the last few years, as well as finding out and discovering new artefacts bringing to light some of the newer history of the place, we learnt of some of the older history and a bit more about some of the less famous people who had resided in the magnificent house.
It was a perfect day to go around and see all the rooms, and the items on display, but too much to take in as there is really so much you want to look at and see the incredible things around. Plus see the gorgeous parkland with all the deer!
Today has been a very different day, cloudy and not so pleasant outside, so have helped dad to sort out some of his stuff. That actually used up a lot of time! It is amazing how much stuff one can accumulate over the years! But I did manage to persuade him to let me take 3 black bags to the recycling depot! So now the place feels cleaner and lighter!
Talking on Facebook I have reiterated the importance of Forgiveness. When beginning on your own healing journey, it is absolutely essential that you are able to forgive those who have caused you pain and grief, and in addition you must also be able to forgive yourself. Do not blame yourself, and do not hold anger or bitterness in your heart. They will make you sick, and you will still be, therefore, be under their influence. Let go, move on! Then you too will feel cleaner and lighter!
I have just been to a wonderful woman's meeting, where we were all able to talk about skin care, and also internal care. It is fine to make your face look good, but you will only truly glow when you have a deep inner beauty. Walk in light and freedom, and make a difference to yourself, and to those around you.
Bless you, have a great day.
Tuesday, 9 October 2018
FLOURISHING
My blog is called FlourishNow88 for a reason:
Because I believe that as we grow through our healing journeys that we are set to Flourish and grow abundantly!
There is a long road ahead, but it does not mean that you cannot shine through it all! Healing takes time, but each step of the journey will bring small victories which are encouragements to help you stick with the programme and give you the incentive to keep going! Even with small set backs, there may be disappointments and may even be some more tough mountains to climb, the trick is to persist and you will get there! Each step counts, and you are taking yourself nearer to your goals every time!
I remember listening to Thomas the Tank Engine with my children, and Thomas is pulling the coaches up the hill, and he puffs encouragement to himself: I will get there, I will get there...
We need to stay focussed and to keep on keeping on. Never Give Up!
Other peoples opinions were important before, but now that you have come through the tough journey of healing, you are stronger and you are able to keep going despite what some people may say. Actually some people may be jealous of you and your success, they wish they could be doing what you are doing, but they either haven't got the guts or determination to take the first steps..
There are often road blocks to success: Fear is a big one, or Self-doubt or Lethargy are also common complications. We have to learn to overcome these, and to let go of the past, moving on is a huge step along the road ahead!
You can overcome these issues, by finding the inner strength that lies within. Once you have understood that you have a deeper spirituality that gives you the sense of calling and empowerment: you are off and climbing up the steep slopes of learning! Finding out and exploring your potential that you never knew you had! You learn that there is more to life and you have hidden abilities and talents that are only now beginning to appear. Nurture and nourish your abilities and watch yourself grow and develop into the new you!
So today I hope that you find within yourself the amazing abilities that you are beginning to unlock! Have fun exploring and learning about who you can become!
Learn to fly!
Because I believe that as we grow through our healing journeys that we are set to Flourish and grow abundantly!
There is a long road ahead, but it does not mean that you cannot shine through it all! Healing takes time, but each step of the journey will bring small victories which are encouragements to help you stick with the programme and give you the incentive to keep going! Even with small set backs, there may be disappointments and may even be some more tough mountains to climb, the trick is to persist and you will get there! Each step counts, and you are taking yourself nearer to your goals every time!
I remember listening to Thomas the Tank Engine with my children, and Thomas is pulling the coaches up the hill, and he puffs encouragement to himself: I will get there, I will get there...
We need to stay focussed and to keep on keeping on. Never Give Up!
Other peoples opinions were important before, but now that you have come through the tough journey of healing, you are stronger and you are able to keep going despite what some people may say. Actually some people may be jealous of you and your success, they wish they could be doing what you are doing, but they either haven't got the guts or determination to take the first steps..
There are often road blocks to success: Fear is a big one, or Self-doubt or Lethargy are also common complications. We have to learn to overcome these, and to let go of the past, moving on is a huge step along the road ahead!
You can overcome these issues, by finding the inner strength that lies within. Once you have understood that you have a deeper spirituality that gives you the sense of calling and empowerment: you are off and climbing up the steep slopes of learning! Finding out and exploring your potential that you never knew you had! You learn that there is more to life and you have hidden abilities and talents that are only now beginning to appear. Nurture and nourish your abilities and watch yourself grow and develop into the new you!
So today I hope that you find within yourself the amazing abilities that you are beginning to unlock! Have fun exploring and learning about who you can become!
Learn to fly!
Sunday, 7 October 2018
POSITIVITY
POSITIVITY GETS YOU PLACES!
To be successful in life you must believe in yourself. If you are surrounded by negativity it is very hard to have a positive mindset and step up in life! I know, I was living with a lot of negativity before, and now I have made some big changes in my life. Surrounded by positive people my confidence has been lifted, and I have been given new challenges which I am now implementing! This journey of healing and transformation is quite amazing. In the last two years I have literally come a long way!
I have relocated from one side of the world to the other, I have stopped being surrounded by negativity, and have begun to receive encouragement and to have a renewed mindset! These two things have and are making a world of difference. Even my best friends now say I have more confidence and am more like my old self, yet more mature! It is an exciting development rediscovering yourself!
Now I am moving further on in the journey of personal discovery and am gaining in understanding on different levels. I am still struggling with operating the internet, but have made strides in that direction too! Hence I have now learnt how to Teach English as a second language and am about to commence a new job doing just that, on line! Wow, I was advised that I could do some teaching, but had not envisaged teaching online! Well, you never know until you have a go! Therefore I am still preparing my walls, so that I have a classroom effect when I set up the Skype connection. Amazing what you can do and discover when you are determined to make a difference! Now I will have the opportunity to help others learn and have fun doing it. Have already got the glove puppets ready, and the posters are up on the wall too.
If you are struggling with issues and are needing some help and support please feel free to check out my blog at FlourishNow88.blogspot.com and gain some learning, watch some encouraging videos, be inspired by some motivational speeches, and find a list of supportive agents that you can seek help from!
Learn how to have a positive mindset and begin to make a difference to your world. By changing your self, you will see those around you change and you will grow and develop in new ways and gain insight and wisdom for yourself.
May you have a wonderful day, and look for opportunities to bring the wind of change to your life, for the betterment of yourself and your loved ones!
Smile, and the whole world smiles with you!
Friday, 5 October 2018
EVERYONE LOVES A STORY
Today I will be speaking live on Facebook again, but this time I will be telling a short story. Of course, it will b motivational!
This is what this blog is all about! To help others to be encouraged, to be inspired and to be motivated. If you don't make changes to your life, then nothing will happen, so you have to get up and off your backside, and start making waves! Move!
So here I am , stepping outside the box again! Speaking out about what I believe, and encouraging others to make the most of their lives. Don't waste the gifts you have! Use them, be a blessing to others, for in being a blessing you will surely be blessed yourself!
Now is the time to take action, to get the positive energy flowing. As the energy flows it will automatically generate more positivity within. As you become more positively charged you will be amazed at the way negativity gets repelled! It is truly wonderful how like attracts to like! If you come across negativity you can speak out against it, but you must not let it influence you. You are the one that can move if necessary!
Previously in my place of work I was being a strong patient advocate as always. I stepped in one early morning, at about 3 am, when I was working in the emergency rooms in the local hospital in Brisbane! One junior doctor had left a patient sitting in a consult room for over an hour. Treatment had been dispensed, but the poor patient was simply waiting for a sick note. So I asked the consultant to write it, so the patient could go home and get some rest. As the consultant was writing the note, the junior doctor came back to the work station and saw what was happening. She declared "That's my patient." instead of being grateful for the help and support in assisting the patient, she ripped up the note and flounced off to the consult room to write her own note and sent the patient home, finally!
Ever since that time I was not popular with that junior doctor. Later that same doctor left, went and did some more work elsewhere, and then rejoined our hospital, in a more senior position. One day I was busy working in the paediatric section, when the doctors came around with their mobile computer station, discussing all the patients in the department as hand over to the next shift of doctors. They were quite a few in the bunch that day, and so I made to go around behind them, to get some equipment. This same doctor saw me, and deliberately walked backwards into me, and jabbed her elbow into me. I was calm, and simply kept going about my work. But then that same doctor did the same thing to my work colleague, so I wrote a report about this not being acceptable behaviour on both of ours behalf!
This kind of bullying carries on all the time in the supposedly caring professions! 'it is so disappointing that we cannot care and support each other.
More of this story another time!
Enough for now, have a great day, and be a positive influence on those around you today.. Don't forget to smile! You will brighten their days! God bless.
This is what this blog is all about! To help others to be encouraged, to be inspired and to be motivated. If you don't make changes to your life, then nothing will happen, so you have to get up and off your backside, and start making waves! Move!
So here I am , stepping outside the box again! Speaking out about what I believe, and encouraging others to make the most of their lives. Don't waste the gifts you have! Use them, be a blessing to others, for in being a blessing you will surely be blessed yourself!
Now is the time to take action, to get the positive energy flowing. As the energy flows it will automatically generate more positivity within. As you become more positively charged you will be amazed at the way negativity gets repelled! It is truly wonderful how like attracts to like! If you come across negativity you can speak out against it, but you must not let it influence you. You are the one that can move if necessary!
Previously in my place of work I was being a strong patient advocate as always. I stepped in one early morning, at about 3 am, when I was working in the emergency rooms in the local hospital in Brisbane! One junior doctor had left a patient sitting in a consult room for over an hour. Treatment had been dispensed, but the poor patient was simply waiting for a sick note. So I asked the consultant to write it, so the patient could go home and get some rest. As the consultant was writing the note, the junior doctor came back to the work station and saw what was happening. She declared "That's my patient." instead of being grateful for the help and support in assisting the patient, she ripped up the note and flounced off to the consult room to write her own note and sent the patient home, finally!
Ever since that time I was not popular with that junior doctor. Later that same doctor left, went and did some more work elsewhere, and then rejoined our hospital, in a more senior position. One day I was busy working in the paediatric section, when the doctors came around with their mobile computer station, discussing all the patients in the department as hand over to the next shift of doctors. They were quite a few in the bunch that day, and so I made to go around behind them, to get some equipment. This same doctor saw me, and deliberately walked backwards into me, and jabbed her elbow into me. I was calm, and simply kept going about my work. But then that same doctor did the same thing to my work colleague, so I wrote a report about this not being acceptable behaviour on both of ours behalf!
This kind of bullying carries on all the time in the supposedly caring professions! 'it is so disappointing that we cannot care and support each other.
More of this story another time!
Enough for now, have a great day, and be a positive influence on those around you today.. Don't forget to smile! You will brighten their days! God bless.
LEARNING HOW TO SPEAK!
One of the things we can do is be a voice for those who are not able to raise theirs! We can speak out and tell the world about our thoughts and feelings regarding whatever is stirring up feelings of injustice within those of us who feel so inspired. We can stand up and proclaim to the world that it is
NOT OK TO SUFFER ABUSE
So many people around the world are putting up with maltreatment, and abuse of one kind or another and have no idea that they are not alone, but so many others are going through similar processes. THIS SHOULD NOT BE THE CASE!
Why should we/people have to put up with negativity? In this 21st Century have we not learned from our past mistakes? Have we not seen that the negativity of this form of treatment has further ongoing repercussions than we have at first realised? Have we not seen that this generation of single parent families - most of whom lack fathering and nurturing - are lacking in discipline, love and positive roll modelling? Is this perhaps one of the reasons that there is a rise in violence? People are lacking in strong nurturing and loving relationships, so they look elsewhere to fill the gaps? They turn to violence and crime to find a reason and a purpose for their lives, and get in with the "wrong crowd"?
This is a sick and dying world, and the depravity and rottenness that people are sinking to is horrifying. How can we reverse this? What can we do to turn the tide and bring back a sense of decency and honour to those around us? How can we validate the child that has lost or never had a father/mother figure in his/her life? So many.... so many have never known a secure and loving home.
There are many small charities out there that are doing their utmost to stem this tide. They are seeing amazing results, children being raised in a loving and nurturing environment, children being loved and encouraged to learn, to have goals and to aim high. They are but a few, but they are gaining ground. They are seeing lives turned around and positivity being restored. HOPE is alive!
Jackie Pullinger in Hong Kong has had the privilege of seeing many lives turned around from hopelessness and despair, to productive and useful lives. I visited Hong Kong last year and was thrilled to meet up with some of the boys that I had worked with many years ago! They are still having a positive outlook and are themselves reaching out to those in need!
Let's keep HOPE alive and shine!
NOT OK TO SUFFER ABUSE
So many people around the world are putting up with maltreatment, and abuse of one kind or another and have no idea that they are not alone, but so many others are going through similar processes. THIS SHOULD NOT BE THE CASE!
Why should we/people have to put up with negativity? In this 21st Century have we not learned from our past mistakes? Have we not seen that the negativity of this form of treatment has further ongoing repercussions than we have at first realised? Have we not seen that this generation of single parent families - most of whom lack fathering and nurturing - are lacking in discipline, love and positive roll modelling? Is this perhaps one of the reasons that there is a rise in violence? People are lacking in strong nurturing and loving relationships, so they look elsewhere to fill the gaps? They turn to violence and crime to find a reason and a purpose for their lives, and get in with the "wrong crowd"?
This is a sick and dying world, and the depravity and rottenness that people are sinking to is horrifying. How can we reverse this? What can we do to turn the tide and bring back a sense of decency and honour to those around us? How can we validate the child that has lost or never had a father/mother figure in his/her life? So many.... so many have never known a secure and loving home.
There are many small charities out there that are doing their utmost to stem this tide. They are seeing amazing results, children being raised in a loving and nurturing environment, children being loved and encouraged to learn, to have goals and to aim high. They are but a few, but they are gaining ground. They are seeing lives turned around and positivity being restored. HOPE is alive!
Jackie Pullinger in Hong Kong has had the privilege of seeing many lives turned around from hopelessness and despair, to productive and useful lives. I visited Hong Kong last year and was thrilled to meet up with some of the boys that I had worked with many years ago! They are still having a positive outlook and are themselves reaching out to those in need!
Let's keep HOPE alive and shine!
Thursday, 4 October 2018
ADVENTURES ON THE NET
Just logged into LinkedIn a couple of weeks ago and found that there was a job on offer teaching English as a second language! So I applied and got accepted! So am to start soon, teaching Chinese children, English online!
You never know what will happen next!
Then as I got clicking on Facebook, I find that one of my old work colleagues has acquired a new puppy, another has a new cat lantern, and my good friends have been over to the Maldives on holiday as they start their retirement: its amazing what you learn!
Then I start looking around for some more information on how to share positive thinking for healthy relationships, to help folk understand what are some good ideas to help people work relatinonships out in a positive and healthy way, to avoid conflict and to have clear ideas as to where their boundaries are.
Now am processing all that material as well as planning the next online chat so that I can keep up to the challenge that was set me last Wednesday! It is all go!
Who said life was boring? It is full, and loads to do at the moment. Looking after my elderly, active 93 year old dad, means that we keep each other on our toes! We went shopping today, and Dad always finds something extra to put into the trolley. He loves pies, and so if I was not vigilant, there would be several. Today we managed to keep it down to one! Which was promptly demolished at supper this evening, as my brother and sister-in-law have come down from Suffolk to stay a couple of nights. It's good to see them, and I got my brother into the garden, helping go up the ladder to trim back the ivy, and then to get the hedge cutter out to lop the tops off the bushes along the fence, and to give the hedge a haircut!
Having done all that work, it meant that yours truly had to rake it all up! So now the bags are full again, which means that there will have to be another trip to the tip to dump all the green waste! So it goes on! There is always something to do, or something to cook and prepare, as you never know who else will be coming to dinner!
Back to the laptop, to catch up on emails, and to write some more blog, and to search for more information for the next task that I have to do. Plus sign up for the affiliate options that i have found!
So on that note, it is time to sign off and go to bed, to start again in the morning!
Sleep well!
You never know what will happen next!
Then as I got clicking on Facebook, I find that one of my old work colleagues has acquired a new puppy, another has a new cat lantern, and my good friends have been over to the Maldives on holiday as they start their retirement: its amazing what you learn!
Then I start looking around for some more information on how to share positive thinking for healthy relationships, to help folk understand what are some good ideas to help people work relatinonships out in a positive and healthy way, to avoid conflict and to have clear ideas as to where their boundaries are.
Now am processing all that material as well as planning the next online chat so that I can keep up to the challenge that was set me last Wednesday! It is all go!
Who said life was boring? It is full, and loads to do at the moment. Looking after my elderly, active 93 year old dad, means that we keep each other on our toes! We went shopping today, and Dad always finds something extra to put into the trolley. He loves pies, and so if I was not vigilant, there would be several. Today we managed to keep it down to one! Which was promptly demolished at supper this evening, as my brother and sister-in-law have come down from Suffolk to stay a couple of nights. It's good to see them, and I got my brother into the garden, helping go up the ladder to trim back the ivy, and then to get the hedge cutter out to lop the tops off the bushes along the fence, and to give the hedge a haircut!
Having done all that work, it meant that yours truly had to rake it all up! So now the bags are full again, which means that there will have to be another trip to the tip to dump all the green waste! So it goes on! There is always something to do, or something to cook and prepare, as you never know who else will be coming to dinner!
Back to the laptop, to catch up on emails, and to write some more blog, and to search for more information for the next task that I have to do. Plus sign up for the affiliate options that i have found!
So on that note, it is time to sign off and go to bed, to start again in the morning!
Sleep well!
Wednesday, 3 October 2018
BIG DAYS!
As you learn more each day, you realise how little you know!
Now as I step up into all that is ahead for me, it is the beginning of another learning curve! So much to achieve, so much to get hold of, as I learn to navigate my way as a teacher of English to Chinese students, as I learn to make and create content for my websites and blog....
'The learning curve keeps growing..
And now, I have to prepare another humorous speech to enter into the area competition in 10 days time! The list keeps growing, will I ever get there!???
Now as I step up into all that is ahead for me, it is the beginning of another learning curve! So much to achieve, so much to get hold of, as I learn to navigate my way as a teacher of English to Chinese students, as I learn to make and create content for my websites and blog....
'The learning curve keeps growing..
And now, I have to prepare another humorous speech to enter into the area competition in 10 days time! The list keeps growing, will I ever get there!???
Tuesday, 2 October 2018
CELEBRATIONS!
Today its my birthday, and I woke up to find that already more than 25 messages have been posted to my page, and then I got a singing phone call from my friend in Sweden, to wish me the best of the day. We are discovering that we have so much in common!
My reading today was Psalm 92 where it states:
"The righteous will Flourish like a Palm tree, He will grow like a cedar in Lebanon, planted in the house of Adonai, they will flourish in the courts of our God.
They will still yield fruit in old age, they will be full of sap and freshness. They declare Adonai is upright, my Rock - there is no injustice in Him"
My dear friend in Sweden is also on the mission to speak out and share her experiences of abuse and mistreatment, in the quest to spread the word about that there is HOPE and there is a FUTURE!
Change can happen, healing takes time, but it is amazing where steps forward will take you!
The key is persistence, and to never give up!
More thoughts to come, when I have some more time to write them down!
My reading today was Psalm 92 where it states:
"The righteous will Flourish like a Palm tree, He will grow like a cedar in Lebanon, planted in the house of Adonai, they will flourish in the courts of our God.
They will still yield fruit in old age, they will be full of sap and freshness. They declare Adonai is upright, my Rock - there is no injustice in Him"
My dear friend in Sweden is also on the mission to speak out and share her experiences of abuse and mistreatment, in the quest to spread the word about that there is HOPE and there is a FUTURE!
Change can happen, healing takes time, but it is amazing where steps forward will take you!
The key is persistence, and to never give up!
More thoughts to come, when I have some more time to write them down!
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