Have you ever felt stuck in a relationship?
Today on the front page of the Telegraph it states that Tini Owens is stuck in a marriage that she longs to be out of, but the judge is not allowing it!
How does the judge know what she has potentially had to put up with? How can he fathom the fear, the degradation, the humiliation, the lack of self worth, the hopelessness that she has potentially felt? How can she put up with being undervalued, not appreciated and treated as a second class citizen?
I have news for you, Tini is not the only one stuck in this sort of situation...
Many of us have had similar experiences.
It is not easy to up and leave after years of marriage, and wondering if one should stay for the sake of the children! But it is YOUR life!
If the marriage is not living up to your expectations of marital bliss, should you have to be a martyr and stick it out? Or should you then be classed as a second rate woman, as you have made the brave decision to leave and make a better use of your life, than being a doormat?
Have you then been looked down on as a "Divorcee" one who betrayed the marital covenant? Or has your situation ever been examined more thoroughly? Have you ever been asked what it was like to cower in the back room with the children, keeping them safe, whilst he ranted and raved and vented his anger on anything and everything in reach, because a tea spoon had missed being washed up?
Have you lived in fear of his return home at the end of the day? You walk on eggshells, running around making sure the floor is spotless, the dinner is cooked just so, and the children are all fed and watered and safely tucked up in bed?
Should you live in fear of your life? Have you been threatened to be killed? What does that do to your psyche?
Is this the way to live life?
Well I think not, what do you think?
Please get back to me with your opinions and thoughts, and I will post the TEDX talk about neuroplasticity and how you can change, if you want to! Talk soon!
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